Empowerment Toolset: Face emotions to learn and grow
In her new book, Insight, the psychologist Tasha Eurich argues that the more accurately you see yourself, the more successful you’ll be.
Asking ‘what’ keeps us open to discovering new information about ourselves, even if that information is negative or in conflict with our existing beliefs.
It also helps to identify the emotions behind our moods so we might better manage the potential negative effects that ‘individual stressors’ like tiredness, hunger or work-related stress can have.
There are similarities to Susan David here.
The author of Emotional Agility explains Why we should embrace rather than push away our difficult emotions in this article on Heleo.com.
When we just push our difficult emotions aside, we fail to face into the learning that can come from those difficult emotions—about what is important to us that then helps us to navigate the world effectively.
We know that people who are more fine-tuned about the label that they use for their emotional experience tend to be happier over time. They’re facing into their emotions
when you label your emotions more effectively, it activates your readiness potential, your ability to set goals and to make real concrete changes.
The healing power of writing down the bad stuff
[You Can Write Your Way Out of an Emotional Funk. Here’s How.
By Susan David
separate article: http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/09/journaling-can-help-you-out-of-a-bad-mood.html]
who write about those difficult experiences for twenty minutes a day for three days—six months later they are significantly more likely to have been rehired. But more than that, they have higher levels of psychological health, higher levels of wellbeing, and greater levels of goal attainment in other areas of their lives.
With amplification, the very things that you try to push out of your mind—”I’m just not going to say something to the team,” or “I’m going to ignore the fact that I’m angry with my brother-in-law,”—it comes out in a snide remark.
We also know that if you try not to think about something, in about one minute you will think about that thing 40 times. So pushing our emotions away doesn’t work.
In order to be effective, we need to develop strategies to be able to open our hearts to the emotion, “This is how I’m feeling.”
Between stimulus and response, there is a space. And in that space is our power to choose. And it’s in that choice that comes our growth and freedom.Victor Frankl
1. Show Up
Recognize that we don’t need to struggle with whether our emotions are good or bad. They just are.
Recognize that all of us, every single one of us is doing the best we can with who we are, what we’ve got, and where we find ourselves in the world.
2. Step out of your emotions
The ability to start creating space that allows you, in the fullness of who you are, to be in charge.
There are very simple ways that we can start doing this in the meeting. Instead of just saying, “I’m stressed, I’m stressed,” ask “What is really going on with me? I’m feeling disappointed, or I’m feeling sad, or I’m feeling undermined.”
Another practical strategy is noticing your thoughts and feelings for what they are. They are thoughts and feelings. They are not who you are; they are data, not directions.
3. Walk your why
Pay attention to our inner Why
Who do I want to be? What kind of me do I want to be?
And find ways to live it!